Borrowed Costume

by Rabbi Meir Orlian

“What are your children dressing up as on Purim?” Mrs. Kahn asked her neighbor.

“Our whole family chooses a theme,” answered Mrs. Lieber. “My husband also dresses up. This year the family is going to be Noach’s Teivah.”

“My son dressed up as a lion last year,” exclaimed Mrs. Kahn. “We bought this great costume. It was so realistic and amazing!”

“Do you still have it?” asked Mrs. Lieber.

“Yes,” replied Mrs. Kahn. “We keep the Purim costumes in a closet.”

“Would you mind lending it to me?” asked Mrs. Lieber.

“With pleasure,” replied Mrs. Kahn. “We’re not using it this year.”

On Purim morning, Mrs. Lieber dressed up her son as a lion with the costume borrowed from Mrs. Kahn. Throughout the day, the “lion” romped around the neighborhood. By evening, the costume was stained and slightly torn. After Purim, Mrs. Lieber washed the costume, but one stain and the slight tear remained.

“What should I do?” Mrs. Lieber asked her husband.

“We’ll have to buy a new one,” said Mr. Lieber. “We’re borrowers and completely liable for the costume. But I suggest you first show it to Mrs. Kahn and see what she says. It’s only a costume, and she may not mind.”

“My son used the lion costume on Purim,” Mrs. Lieber said to Mrs. Kahn. “Unfortunately, it got stained and slightly torn. If you want, we’ll buy you a new one.”

Mrs. Kahn looked at the costume. “It’s only a costume,” she said. “I can sew the tear and, anyway, I don’t know when we’ll use it again. I’ll show my husband.”

“Whatever you think,” said Mr. Kahn. “However, if it got ruined through normal use on Purim, I’m not sure that Mrs. Lieber is liable! I’ll talk it over with Rabbi Dayan at his weekly shiur, which Mr. Lieber also attends.”

After the shiur, Mr. Kahn and Mr. Lieber approached Rabbi Dayan. “My wife lent Mrs. Lieber a lion costume for Purim, which got slightly ruined,” Mr. Kahn said. “Are they liable for it?”

“A person who borrows an item is not allowed to lend it to others,” explained Rabbi Dayan. “This parallels the halachah that one who is entrusted with an item is not allowed to entrust it to others.” (C.M. 342:1)

“Nonetheless, it is expected that a guardian will rely on his wife and mature children,” continued Rabbi Dayan. “Similarly, it seems permissible to allow them to use a borrowed item. However, a guardian may not rely on his young, minor children. Similarly, a borrower cannot allow them use of the borrowed item; doing so would constitute negligence on his part.” (C.M. 291:21)

“What about a child’s costume?” asked Mr. Lieber.

“In our case, a costume intended for children was clearly borrowed for them,” replied Rabbi Dayan. “As such, it is logical that usage by children, and any ensuing typical damage, is par for the course, and included in normal wear and tear. The parent cannot be expected to constantly supervise and protect the borrowed item from any blemish typical for children of that age.

“Even a borrower is not liable for meisah machmas melachah, when the item died, broke, or was damaged through normal use, and certainly not for normal wear and tear of the item,” added Rabbi Dayan. “Therefore Mrs. Lieber is exempt regarding stains or small tears that are customary when children wear such a costume. “However, a parent would still be liable for excessive damage not typical for such an age, since that could not be called damage due to normal usage.” (C.M. 340:1; Pischei Choshen, Pikadon 9:9[24])

Clarification: In light of responses received regarding the article “Deny It!” I would like to reiterate that, as stated in the article, lying in beis din is unequivocally prohibited! Even the opinions that express some element of leniency in certain situations do not allow this!

This article is intended for learning purposes and not to be relied upon halacha l’maaseh. There are also issues of dina d’malchusa to consider in actual cases.

Rabbi Meir Orlian is a faculty member of the Business Halacha Institute, which is headed by HaRav Chaim Kohn, shlita, a noted dayan. For questions regarding business halacha issues, or to bring a BHI lecturer to your business or shul, please call the confidential hotline at 877-845-8455 or e-mail To receive BHI’s free newsletter, Business Weekly, send an e-mail here.


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