It’s nice to read that people are using a wedding to facilitate making shidduchim (Halachic Musings: Shidduchim Rooms at Weddings?) . Rabbi Hoffman states it’s a new idea that bears repeating. However, an old, tried and true method of having singles meet one another at weddings is to have them sit together! I know it’s a shocking idea today, but it worked beautifully for past generations. The young people can always approach shadchanim about someone they met. Perhaps it’s worth trying since the current system seems to be failing.
What He Deserves
As usual, Baila Sebrow’s answer (Dating Forum: Putting Parents First) was one of on-target excellence. I just feel the need to respond to the sad admission about rabbanim who counsel against marrying older never-married women (as if life is so easy for them that they need more enemies out there).
I imagine that these same rabbanim do continue to accept checks from such unfortunate members.
As for this alte bachur, his tail should have been kicked across Central Avenue long ago. How many wonderful résumés did he drown in over the past decades before winding up with the present lady who is too loyal to her parents?
Meanwhile, when he was not in his forties, these passed-over, older never-married women presumably would have been fertile.
I think he deserves what he is faced with. No sympathy here — let’s reserve it for those who truly merit it.
I Won’t Stand For This
With all due respect for my good friend Avi Goldstein, and I totally respect Avi, his uncompromising view of Israel’s most staunch supporters’ actions at the U.S. Embassy’s opening ceremonies in Jerusalem are misguided (Letters to the Editor: I Won’t Stand For This).
Israel has far too few friends in the world—and even fewer without the clout of American Evangelicals. Getting in the face of Pastor Jeffress or refusing to stand when requested to by Pastor Hagee at the ceremony would be a disaster.
Any student of Navi remembers the consequences when Yoshiyahu erroneously believed the people of Israel to be sufficiently righteous as to prevent Pharaoh Necho from marching through the land. True, Yoshiyahu did not heed Yirmiyahu, who told him the people were not quite as righteous as Yoshiyahu believed — but we really don’t need a navi to tell us that today, do we?
In short, it’s very beautiful to trust in Hashem, but history has shown the Jewish people that, to slightly change Mayor Koch’s standard rejoinder, one must be frum with seichel.