Detention center in McAllen, Texas. Photo: Center for Border Protection

By Rav Yaakov Feitman
Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi, Cedarhurst

My rebbe, Rav Yitzchok Hutner, zt’l, always quoted to us the immortal words of the Maharal: “devorim gedolim ainam b’mikreh” great things are never coincidental. The controversy over President Trump’s so-called “child-separation policy” has erupted and even involved Am Yisrael just before the advent of the Three Weeks.

In an extraordinary carefully worded statement, Agudas Yisrael, which never makes major pronouncements without the guidance of the Moetzes Gedolei Hatorah, joined many other Jewish organizations, such as the Orthodox Union, in condemning the administration’s policy of separating illegal would-be immigrants from their parents. Although the Moetzes and Agudah rarely get involved in issues not directly impacting Klal Yisrael, it seems that the moral and ethical implications here were so egregious and flagrant that they were unavoidable.

Although I have no personal knowledge of the Moetzes’ decision-making process on this issue, I imagine they may have felt that it would constitute a chilul Hashem to remain silent. Furthermore, the administration has long made the point that it is not opposed to immigration, rather it takes action against those who break the law. It has made the case that those entering the country illegally were themselves endangering their children and had often sent their children on dangerous journeys, exposing them to hazardous conditions. Although the analogy has been drawn to the Holocaust, it has been pointed out that even in the worst of circumstances, these children have been well fed, given medical attention, and provided with toys and educational materials.

And yet, we along with many others felt compelled to distance ourselves from the policy and, to use an ancient Torah term, make a macha’ah, protest verbally against apparent injustice. What happened? Mah nishtanah? What indeed compelled this almost unprecedented involvement in what seemed to have been a political event not particularly connected to Eretz Yisrael or the Jewish people?

Two lines from last week’s New York Times tell the story: “a policy … ripping babies out of their mother’s arms” and “we should never abide treating children like trash, no matter where they come from.” Lines like these, whether justifiable or not, tear at the heartstrings of all decent people and obviously could not have left us callously unresponsive.

Regardless of what happens on the American or world stage, for us there is a timely message well worth heeding. Several years ago, Rav Chizkiyahu Yosef Karlinstein related a story from the Zohar (Parashas Ki Teitzei) on the eve of Rosh Hashanah. Rav Elazar, the son of Rav Shimon, author of the Zohar, heard that Rav Yossi of Peki’in had passed away. He asked his colleagues to accompany him to that city to pay last respects to the great Tanna, provide him with tachrichim and bury him properly.

When they arrived at his home, a young girl stood in the doorway, barring their entry. They heard heart-rending cries emanating from the next room, noticing a young boy lying on top of his father. He called out loudly to Hashem, “You wrote in your Torah ‘send away the mother [bird] and then you may take babies.’ You have already taken our mother from us several years ago. How can You now take our father as well? How can You now leave my sister and me without a father who was both a father and a mother to us?”

Rav Elazar said to his colleagues, “I do not know what will happen, but I do know that there will be miracles and wonders, for nothing can stand in the way of tears such as these.” Suddenly they heard the voice of Rav Yossi calling to them, as he was gently stroking the face of his son, whose eyes were streaming rivers of tears. “You should know,” he said to his visitors, “I was already in the Heavenly Court … but because of my son’s tears, they sent me back to earth.”

Rav Karlinstein related that after he finished his derashah, a Hatzalah member approached him, his eyes shining. “Rebbe,” he began, “you told a story that happened 2,500 years ago. Let me share something that happened last Thursday. We received a call from someone who saw an overturned car between Be’er Sheva and Yerucham. There was an injured woman who seemed to have been completely crushed. An uninjured boy of ten sat crying next to her, so we moved him against his will to our car. The mother seemed beyond hope and we felt that he should not witness his mother’s imminent death. The boy, who was not religious and who spoke Russian begged for a kipah and we covered his head, as he requested. He began to cry loudly, ‘Imaaah, I have no father. Please don’t die! Mommy, please do me a favor. If you are alive, please open your eyes.’ Right in front of us, a miracle happened. The mother opened her eyes wide, as her son had begged. We of course redoubled our efforts, and she eventually recovered completely.”

We know, and even the rest of the world understands instinctively, that there is nothing like the cries of a child. That is clearly a universal sentiment. However, Rav Karlinstein later related these stories to the Three Weeks as well. He related a story with a young man who had learned in the Yeshiva of Ponovizh but sadly went off the derech, left the yeshiva, and joined the army. One day he received a letter from someone identified on the envelope as Shmuel. He could not recall a close friend named Shmuel but read the entire letter: “To my dear friend: where are you? I miss you and want to see to see you again. Signed, Shmuel Rozovsky.” After receiving such a letter from the rosh yeshiva, the young man soon returned to the yeshiva happily.

Rav Karlinstein used the story to answer a famous question. The Gemara (Bava Metzia 85a) tells of the time that Rebbe was walking in the street as a young calf being led to slaughter nuzzled into his clothing for protection. Rebbe whispered into its ear, “Go, because for this you were created.” After this, rebbe was punished with 13 years of terrible suffering. The meforshim ask, “What did rebbe do wrong? He spoke the exact truth.” One answer is that if someone or even something comes to you for protection, you may not turn them away, even if your words and the rejection are correct. When we turn to our Father in heaven asking to be rescued, He must see that we, too, practice such intervention even if there are ample reasons to turn away.

Perhaps, at least for us, that is the underlying motivation for our cringing at a policy of separating children from their parents. It does not matter who did this before, nor that the parents are breaking the law. Children are crying and being ripped from their parents. For us, that is not only unacceptable; it goes against our very essence as a people who are rachmanim b’nei rachmanim.

However, for us there is an even deeper side to the story. Non-religious parents sought out a rav in Eretz Yisrael asking him to pray for their early demise. “Why would you want to die? You seem like healthy people in the prime of life,” the rav asked with bafflement. “You see,” they responded, “our children have told us to stay out of their lives. We are from the old country and are only in the way. Life for us has no meaning anymore.” Now the rav looked at them with pity but answered sharply with his own query. “Did you try telling this to our Creator?” Their sad answer revealed all. “Rabbi, we haven’t prayed in 70 years. How could we turn to him now?” The rav now spoke in a kinder tone, “If you are upset at your daughters for turning away from you, how do you think your Father in heaven feels at your silent seven decades?”

At this time of year, we must think of Hashem’s intense pain (Berachos 3a) at the destruction of His home and the exile of His children. We must cry over our loss indeed but even more importantly, over His loss. If we want Him to respond to the cries of His children, He must see that we recognize His profound suffering as well. Perhaps even as we react viscerally to the pain of other people’s children, we must empathize with the parents as well, which leads us to the ultimate parent, the Father of us all Who is in exile with us (Zohar, Acharei Mos). The Chinuch (Parashas Yisro) famously teaches us that from honoring our parents, we learn to honor Hashem as well. At this time, Hashem may have sent us a new motivation and venue to mourn for the loss of our national home, the Beis HaMikdash, at the same time as we are awakened to the presence of Hashem in our lives in this bitter galus. May we take advantage of this special moment to bring geulos and yeshuos for all of Klal Yisrael.


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