Dear Alice,

I had a busy week. I had a wedding one night, a bar mitzvah another night, and went away for Shabbos. I was so proud of how well I did through all these challenges. I didn’t touch cake or desserts, hardly had any challah, was careful with my portion sizes, and generally felt like I was really watching myself. I was so excited for my weigh-in, as I was sure I lost three pounds this week. Yet, when I got on the scale, it showed that I had stayed the same. I am so upset. What was the point of all that work if I was just going to stay the same?!


Surprised and Disappointed

Dear Surprised and Disappointed,

Wow! I really do feel your frustration. This is common: when someone has a week full of simchas, vacations, or other challenges they feel that the scale should reflect how hard they worked. Meaning, if you were fighting temptation all week, the expectation might be that instead of losing the typical 1 or 2 pounds, you should be down 3 or 4 pounds!

Unfortunately, the scale doesn’t work that way. Your nutrition counselor definitely appreciates all the hard work that you put in, but the scale only knows what you actually ate, not how hard you worked. And although you may have chosen very well considering the difficult situations you were in, you may not have been as “on-plan” as you think you were.

For example, you may have been eating late meals, which is not great for weight loss and is not recommended on our plan. You also may not have had the proper portion sizes and the food may have been prepared differently than you would have done it at home.

Therefore, in a week filled with simchas, you may want to adjust your expectations, with the goal being just to maintain your weight and not necessarily to lose. Do not despair! Had you not been watching carefully, you may have even gained a pound or two over the week, which would be even more disappointing and more of a setback. Always keep in mind that if you have a busy week full of yom tov meals or simchas, it is okay to just maintain your weight.

On the other hand, if your lifestyle is such that you really have nightly simchas week after week, you may need to make the decision to eat at home rather than try to choose well at each simcha. Depending on your lifestyle and how often you are out at night, as well as how much weight you have to lose, eating before the simcha may be necessary, and should be discussed with your nutrition counselor.

Good Luck!


Alice Harrosh is a nutrition counselor and manager at Nutrition by Tanya with 11 locations, including one in Five Towns right near Elderd Lane. Alice knows that making healthy choices is not always easy as she has been through the struggle herself. As an optimistic person, Alice’s favorite quote is: “It’s never too late to start eating better. If you have a bad morning, make it a better afternoon.” For more information on Nutrition by Tanya or the TAP (Tanya-approved products) food line, please visit or call 844-Tanya-Diet. For daily tips and inspiration, you may follow @nutritionbytanya on Instagram.


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