Dating Forum: Recovering From a Gaslighting Relationship
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I got divorced not too long ago. My ex-wife was what professionals call a “gaslighter.” The goal of a gaslighter is to make the other person believe he or...
The Silent Suffering Of Children In Prolonged Divorces And Why Mediation Is A Lifeline...
By Tamara Gestetner
Divorce is a journey that is filled with pain, anguish, and uncertainty. When it stretches out over months or years, it can become a life-altering experience, especially...
Money Matters
DISCLAIMER: The following column is a composite of several different experiences I have had with clients. It does not depict a specific encounter. This story is not about you!
There...
Will She Be An Evil Stepmother?
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I’m a 34-year-old divorced guy with two kids and I’m dating a girl who’s never been married. We are crazy about each other, but she hates my kids. She...
Conflict Encounters
In some of my earlier columns I discussed how human beings are wired for conflict. Different systems within us, both physical and emotional, vie for our energy and attention....
Dating Forum: Boys Are Suffering in Shidduchim Too
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My family and I have been reading your column with interest for years, and my husband asked me to write to you about what we know is a double...
Self-Serving Single Shadchan
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Recently, I was contacted by a guy who said he was a shadchan with a large database of résumés in various WhatsApp groups. Over the phone, he sounded like...
Mindbiz: My Son-in-Law the Know-It-All
Dear Esther,
When my son-in-law Josh first started dating our daughter Rena, we liked him very much. He seemed like such a friendly, personable, interesting young man. Rena has always...
Realigning Perspectives
By Malkie Gordon Hirsch Magence
When I was a little girl, and (regularly) misbehaved, my mother would say something that has recently started popping back into my head, 35+ years...
The Suspense Story
Suspense is a state of mind that fuses uncertainty, anxiety, and waiting. When we hold our breath with fear or excitement, uncertain about what will happen, that is suspense....
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There are basically two kinds of questions on a driving permit test. There’s “Yeah, that one’s obvious,” and there’s, “How am I supposed to...
Empty Skies, Empty Seats
As summer turns to autumn, the Hebrew month of Elul sweeps in, bringing with it a tide of hope and renewal. Elul marks the...
Daf Yomi And Agadita: Roots And Uproots
By Rabbi Aaron I. Reichel, Esq.
One of the stories of agadita (Rabbinic folklore) that we studied last weekend (Bava Basra 73-75) that is particularly...